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Work. Work. Work. Collect money.

A funny Thai ad that’s so true, even though its purpose it’s to discourage drinking.

Here’s the formula:

  1. Work.
  2. Work.
  3. Work.
  4. Collect money.
  5. Work.
  6. Collect money.
  7. Pay debt.
  8. Work.
  9. Collect money.
  10. Get educated.
  11. Stable life.
  12. Help others.
  13. Happy.
  14. Wife loves him.
  15. Happy family.
  16. Healthy.
  17. Teach others.
  18. Improve social.
  19. Smart.
  20. Improve his country.

If it sounds weird, watch the video, you’ll get it.

Balance and action

To be centred and balanced is not to be devoid of desire to act.

It is to have no barrier between being and doing.

It is to let go of the need for desire as an attachment to “link” the two. Such a link can cause confusion, resistance and obsession.

Water doesn’t need to want to be water. It is water, and it does what water does.

15 things I wish I knew when I was 25

Sometimes we forget what we know is good and true, and instead fall into the trap of habit. So sometimes we need reminding.

I did this exercise for day 64 of Claudia Altucher’s Become an Idea Machine (which called for only 10 things!), and realised this was not a list to my younger self; it’s really a list to myself right now, so I wanted to keep it handy.

15 things I wish I knew when I was 25

  1. Brush it off. Yes, things didn’t work out the way you wanted. Now get up, decide what the fuck you want to do next, and go do it.
  2. Stop expecting people to be perfect. Including yourself.
  3. Stop wasting time on what doesn’t matter.
  4. Stop waiting for things to fall in place.
  5. Take care of your body. It will take time, so start learning now.
  6. Keep in touch with your friends.
  7. Have random fun. It will make you happy.
  8. Try things that seem difficult or “unlike” you.
  9. Take care of the ones you love.
  10. Don’t let your emotions get in the way of what’s important.
  11. Meditate.
  12. Listen to your gut. Explore the things your instincts tell you to.
  13. Following what you think you “should” do or what’s “safe” will only lead to pain.
  14. The only limitations are your thinking and your habits. You can change them.
  15. There is enough time in life. Stop wasting time thinking there isn’t.

We alone make our choices, but we don’t have to be alone in them

I just realised that my parents have never forced me into any life choices save one. I’m not quite sure if that was a good or bad thing. The last time they did it was in my last year of primary school, where they pushed me to top the school; after that I made all my own life choices.

I always thought that it might be the fact that I wilfully chose to have things that way, but in retrospect it could have signalled a lack of communication — they probably had no inkling of what I was doing or what I wanted to do, and in some ways, neither did I. If I rebelled I think I rebelled in quite a large, if silent, way.

Because of this I also felt like I never relied on them or got support from them for my life choices. I felt I didn’t need to, but equally, I felt lonely in my choices, and accepted that I had to face both choices and consequences alone.

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Do you want your dreams too much?

Why do we sometimes find it difficult to reach our goals?

Is it because we don’t want it enough? If we read what many personal growth writers say then we might believe that it is.

We’re told that we need to muster more motivation, develop our drive, and gather our willpower to be able to move forward with our goals. Know why. Power up the reasons we’re doing something.

That may be true of course, but is it always?

What if…

What if we can’t get to where we want to not because we don’t want it enough, but because we want it too much?

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Not knowing

Not knowing gives us a chance to…
…try something different.
…learn something new.
…be ourselves.
…be unique.
…forge a new path
…make new connections.
…be comfortable with uncertainty.
…be a beginner.
…feel like a kid in a candy store.
…let go of outcomes.
…use what we do know.
…let go of pressure.
…have fun.
…be excited.
…have a story to tell.
…be crazy.
…feel alive.

Not knowing is our power.

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